Want your relationship to last? Don't have an affair....and other amazing marriage tips!
According to a recent survey conducted in the UK, extramarital affairs are the number one cause driving couples apart. Affairs! Problems in the bedroom are cited as number two.Huh?
Don't the experts always tell us that 'money' is the biggest bone of contention couples have? Who are all these people having affairs? And why?
I'd have to say that if your marriage is being decimated by one or more parties having an affair, the fling is not likely the root of the break up. The affair is most likely a symptom of whatever is driving the couple apart. One partner feels unappreciated by his spouse, so he seeks the company of someone who thinks he is fabulous. Another partner feels lonely because her partner works shift work, and instead of talking to her partner she goes out and find someone who is there in the moment.
How do you get at what is actually causing the rift between partners? Well, I will tell you.
Wait for it...
(This is quite revolutionary.)
Communicate with each other.
Yep. Tell each other how you feel BEFORE the problem escalates and BEFORE you get the urge to start trolling for a newer model. Some problems are difficult to talk about, like sex (major problem number two according to the survey). It doesn't matter, you still need to communicate about it.
Do it in person, in a letter, in a card, in an e-mail, over the phone, or through a counsellor... just do it. Speak with love and from a place that talks about how YOU feel. Try not to blame. Always try to give the other person the benefit of the doubt... if the other person abuses this trust then we have bigger issues.
CouplesQuestions Online Marriage Prep program is ideal for engaged and newly married couples to start their marriages off with those lines of communication open. Why not give it a try?
Incidentally, work stress or lack of work-life balance is noted as the third biggest factor in marital break down.
Happy Couples, Happy Planet!
Labels: marriage, relationships, sex
posted by Heather and Dan @ 8:21 PM
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