Am I too young to get married?
How old are you? How old is your partner? Are you or your partner under the age of 25?There is no magic age to get married. Younger couples and older couples alike can have very happy and successful marriages. However it must be stated that, on average, couples that get married under the age of 25 are significantly more likely to get divorced than their older counterparts. Statistics show the younger you are when you marry, the more likely you are to split up. After 25, the effect levels off.
It is not difficult to imagine why those who marry young have a harder time staying together. Those under 25 will likely have varying degrees of immaturity and lack some of the emotional development and communicative skills required in a successful serious relationship.
Also, many younger married couples are tying the knot for the wrong reasons. Perhaps an unplanned pregnancy, perhaps a desire to leave the family home and a chance to be “grown up”, or perhaps it just seem like the right thing to do because you really love the other person. It also might be the case, especially for many younger women, that they are caught up in the fairytale ideal of being a bride and a wife.
If you are under 25, we consider that to be a bit of a red flag for possible trouble down the line. We recommend three possible actions to give yourselves a greater chance at success in marriage:
- Wait a few years before getting married, if possible. If you are in love enough to get married, a year or two more shouldn’t matter.
- Hold off on having children for the first few years. That will give you invaluable time to enjoy yourselves as a couple, before the demands of parenting. Actually, this is good advice for most couples. But the younger you are, the more freedom you have before the biological clock starts ticking.
- Do some kind of marriage preparation through your church or temple or synagogue, with a counselor, or through our online marriage preparation program.
At the very least, ask yourself this (and be honest): What is the rush? Am I really getting married for the right reasons? You deserve the best relationship and the best life possible.
Make your decisions wisely.
Labels: marriage, premarital 101, premarriage questions, weddings
posted by Heather and Dan @ 10:24 PM
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Age is not the issue, although life experience and maturity should be strong deciding factors. Marriage is hard work. Some people want it to work. Some people hope it will work. Some people make it work. Determine now to make it work. Times will get tough, and you'll need all the determination you can get.
Anonymous is right. You have to be ready to work at it, support each other, and not just coast. Your relationship probably feels magical, but they all do at the start. Whether you are mature enough to keep the magic alive is the key!
But it is not all hard work. If it is, you are doing it wrong!
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