Talk it Out Before You Tie the Knot …and Afterwards!

Once you are married, however, that doesn’t mean the talking stops. Quite the opposite, really. Having good communication is probably the most important thing in any relationship, let alone a marriage.

I suppose we all need to be reminded of this from time to time, but it became relevant to me today as I was talking with a friend who was frustrated with her husband. He asked her if it would be OK for him to go away for the weekend to a sporting event and she expressed frustration because he had already been away 3 out of the last 4 weekends (they have two young children and hadn’t spent any time as a couple in a while). Knowing this, he said, “Tell me not to go and I won’t go”. As she reported to me, she didn’t want to have to tell him not to go (she said to me she didn’t want to be the ‘bad guy’), she wanted him just to understand that she didn’t want him to go. Meaning she wanted him to come up with the idea not to go on his own.

Any comments on this exchange?

Happy Couples, Happy Planet!

posted by Heather and Dan @ 6:47 PM