Why Do a Pre Marriage Course?
We know that you love your partner. We know you adore them. We know that they are your sun and your moon and everything in between. We know that in the early stages of a relationship everything is perfect. And that is fabulous!
But we also know that you are each your own person with your own opinions, feelings and experiences. We know that as times passes and the relationship evolves through different stages, small irritations, disagreements, and conflicts will inevitably come up. Doing a pre-marriage course or counselling will not only give you the tools to know how to handle these trouble spots, it will give you the confidence to face them head on.
“Happily-ever-after” is a fine notion and one we all hope for, but the reality is that to achieve that it takes love, energy and attention. Some people may think that the practicality and sensibleness of taking a close look at your relationship and how you interact with each other (i.e. by doing a pre marriage course) will detract from the romance and excitement of being together. But think of it this way: If you want to spend the next 60 years together, wouldn’t you like those years to be as wonderful as they can possibly be? Don’t you want the love to last?
If you are getting married, think about all the planning you are doing for the wedding. Think about the expense. Don’t you think that your MARRIAGE deserves at least some of that attention you are paying to the wedding day? Whether through your local community centre, through your place of worship, though a professional marriage and family therapist, or at CouplesQuestions.com (coming soon!... and our personal preference!) there are many places where couples can learn how to make their marriages great.
At CouplesQuestions.com we really believe that strengthening couples, strengthens families. And we believe that strong families are the backbone of any great and productive community. In our own way, we just want to make the world a better place. After all…
Happy Couples, Happy Planet!
posted by Heather and Dan @ 4:11 PM
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How do I find a pre-marriage course in the San Francisco Bay Area?
Our first recommendation is always to go with an accredited counselor. The AAMFT has a list here.
It's worth asking for recommendations (sorry, we don't know anyone in the area). You might start with whoever will be performing the ceremony or your wedding planner. Ask anyone you know who got married in the past few years, as well. Also, ask any happily married couple that you think of as a role model -- even if they are not recently married, they may know someone or have heard of someone.
Your place of worship may also have a program or someone that they suggest. Classroom marriage preparation is often offered through community centres or continuing education programs.
One thing you should be aware of is that courses are often given by churches who are trying to attract people back into the fold. That is fair enough and might be to your benefit -- hey, they are not going to entice you back to church if they put on a crappy program! But if that doesn't appeal to you, then ask the question before signing up.
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