Should you sign a prenuptual agreement?
Exit strategies are great things. For UN peacekeeping missions.But UN missions aren't romantic endeavours. Yes, we are fans of going into marriage with eyes wide open. And yes, prenups are going to make sense for some people. But we are still agnostic about the idea for most people. We wouldn't want people to approach their relationship with the thought that it doesn't matter whether they work things out, since they have an easy way out.
We want them to choose someone compatible and we want them to learn the skills to keep their love strong. We want them to get to know each other before the wedding, so they don't get unhappy surprises after the wedding.
To be fair, it is easy to take cheap shots at prenuptual agreements. We don't mean to be putting you down. Just don't invest the prenup with any more meaning than, say, the contract for booking the reception hall. It is not part of the marriage and it most likely won't help you have a better marriage. It won't make a divorce any easier, though it might make it less messy.
If you do feel you need a prenup, then go for it. But also make yourself a promise to do premarriage counselling or coaching, too. Make sure you have the skills and understanding to make sure you never have to fall back on the prenup.
Happy Couples, Happy Planet!
posted by Heather and Dan @ 8:39 AM
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