How do you know if he or she is The One?
I was very lucky. I had dated different people on and off over the years and I had even spent significant periods of time as a cheerful single. I refused to spend longer than necessary with someone who didn't make me feel special or I didn't see myself spending significant periods of time with. Friends and family always told me that when you are with the right person you will know. You'll just know. Well you know what? I met Dan, fell in love and NOW I know. I feel totally justifed in not settling for something less that wonderful. And so should you.
Our feeling at CouplesQuestions.com is this:
If you are truly uncertain, then they are not the one. If you agonize back and forth over whether they are or are not the one, they are probably not the one. If you are with this person just because you don’t want to be single anymore or are afraid to be alone, they are not the one. If it looks good on paper but doesn’t quite feel right. They are not the one.
We know that you love your partner, but if you are unsure whether or not they are The One you want to spend your life with, you might ask yourself these questions which we adapted from an about.com page:
- Are you involved for the right reasons? If it’s her money, or his status you love you need to examine your motives. You may be denying yourself the chance to find true love.
- Do you share the same life plans and goals? They don’t have to be exact but they should be in sync. If one of you wants to join the Peace Corp and the other wants to work on Wall Street you may have a problem. Do you share the same values?
- Nobody is perfect. Can you live with their flaws?
- How does this person make you feel? Loved? Cherished? Adored? Or tolerated, ugly, and depressed? Do they make you feel like you are the most important thing in their life? Do you KNOW, without a doubt, you are loved?
Happy Couples, Happy Planet!
posted by Heather and Dan @ 12:44 PM
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