The Best Marriage Advice
I ever got...Was from the counsellor who did our marriage education. (Ann Evans, for any of you in Vancouver.) There were "aha moments" in every one of our sessions. But futzing around in our garden this long weekend, I got to mulling over what I'd learned and what advice we'd taken.
The one thing that stands out most right now was her advice for us to wait a few years before having children. It gives time to enjoy one another and deepen your roots as a couple. We developed our own ways of doing things, of enjoying ourselves and of enjoying each other. (What Ann called the 'we-ness', which always cracked us up.)
Parenting brings stresses and it changes your life. You learn, you adapt, and you work together. It is very worthwhile, but it is not romantic. We rarely even get to go out for walks together in the evening, something we used to love. If our family life were a house, our time together pre-baby would be the foundation. And it is always best to build on a strong foundation.
Personally, I'm convinced that your time together as a couple, before having kids, improves your odds of a successful transition into being empty nesters two decades later.
We know that not all couples have the luxury of waiting before having children... but that will have to be the topic of another post! More on the gardening another time, too.
Happy couples, happy planet!
posted by Heather and Dan @ 9:42 PM
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Many times couple shows more interest and show the attitude of doing anything for their partner but later things turn down and many things change in your present relationship after marriage. This is due to the reason couples are more in love and ignore other aspect of real life that they have to live together. Premarital counseling is necessary for these couples. Pre-marriage therapy deals with all the present behavioral, physical, mental, economical and desires of both the partner and then give the suggestion whether you can live together or what kind of relationship important tips you have to follow for better and healthy marriage relationship. Sometimes couples admit themselves in couple boot camps and many marriage saving seminars to enhance their communication skills, to control anger, reduce abusive behavior and many more.
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