About us: our story

We met in early June, got engaged in mid August, moved in together in November and got married the following August. Then, we bought a house the following November and had our first baby, gorgeous little Emily Grace, the next October.  To say that we moved quickly with some major life decisions would be an understatement!

Moving that fast is not something we suggest for everybody. However, we were both in our mid 30s, we had both travelled the world, and we had both had significant relationships in the past. In short, we knew what we were looking for and we knew we had actually found it. 

We were crazy in love with each other (still are in fact!) but our craziness didn’t blind us to certain practicalities and challenges of joining our lives.  Furthermore, we waited so long to find each other that we were determined to learn some tools to help us not only stay together, but stay together HAPPILY, for the next 60 years. So, before we moved in together, we took pre-marriage counselling from a professional relationship counsellor in our city. It was a wonderful experience and has made a big impact on our relationship even today, years later.

We always recommend formal pre-marriage counselling to people we know who are getting married. But you know what? We don’t know anyone else who has actually done it. Maybe it is the cost (we paid $95/hour), or maybe the time, or maybe it is embarrassment of talking about personal issues with a stranger. We don’t know.

This is where we got the idea for CouplesQuestions.com.  We are not professional counsellors. In fact, our backgrounds are in Adult Education (Heather has a Master’s degree in Education) and in Communications and Diplomacy (Dan). We have simply learned what works for us in our relationship and we wanted to make it easier for others to do the same.

We are not perfect people and we are not “The Perfect Couple” (though we just might be perfect for each other!). We have our ups and a few downs just like anybody. But we love being together and doing what we do works well for us and our growing family. We hope CouplesQuestions.com helps you and your partner in your relationship.

As you work together on the CouplesQuestions.com workbook, we hope your love and understanding of each other will deepen and that the goals you set as a couple will help focus you for a fulfilling and exciting lifetime commitment.

As you begin your life together in a faithful union, we sincerely wish you and your partner all the love, laughter, joy and happiness that your heads and hearts can hold. 

Best wishes,